If your significant other is a procrastinator chances are he or she hasn't yet checked "Mother's Day gift" off the list yet which means there is plenty of time to forward this post along to them and get what you really want this year. Here's a round-up of what moms really want. A list of things recommended by moms, made by moms and desired by moms.
#1 A Night Away
Look. We love you all, we really do, but the reality is that most of us moms are exhausted. We are constantly on the move: getting snacks, pouring drinks, folding clothes, blowing noses, wiping bottoms, mopping floors....the list is never ending. We rarely have a minute to ourselves, even in sleep as many of us bed share or are waking up multiple times during the night to change diapers, reassure little ones after bad dreams, nurse, check fevers, etc. Our television is dominated by Daniel Tiger and Nickelodeon and we can sing the opening theme song to a minimum of 5 different kid's shows. Our food is stolen by little hands right from our plate and most of our conversations with other adults revolve around potty training and math homework.
We need a break. A day off. We need a hotel room with a big bathtub, a king sized bed, a television that plays our favorite shows and room service (or Uber Eats) that will bring us food on demand. We need 8 full hours of sleep. We need a night, just one, where no one wants anything from us and we don't have to share the bed with 2 dogs, 1 cat, 4 kids and a snoring significant other. Just one night.
How to make it happen: (1) Book a one night staycation at a local hotel. It doesn't have to be out of town and it doesn't have to be super fancy. The gift is the time, everything else is extra. (2) Not able to splurge on a hotel? That's ok! If you have a bed and a bathroom, you can improvise right at home. Gift her with tickets to "Hotel (Your Family Name)", make her a favorite meal and make sure you and the kids leave her alone for a couple of hours. That along with taking overnight duty and greeting her with coffee and a simple breakfast in bed in the morning will for sure earn you brownie points and show her just how special you think she is.
#2 Clothes That Make Her Look Cute...Even When She Hasn't Showered
There is definitely such a thing as a "Mom Uniform" and, if you are doing it right, the point of said uniform is to make you look put together even when you aren't. This is where things like dry shampoo, eyeliner and lip gloss are key. If a mom has those things and a cute t-shirt, no one is going to care (or notice) that she hasn't showered in 3 days. Believe me, I speak from experience. There are tons of super cute options out there, but the best t's are the ones that bond moms together. It's the shirt that another mom spots from a distance in Target and immediately thinks, "I need that shirt" or "She and I were meant to be friends." These are the best of the best, just click on the picture for more info.
#3 Wine. Lots of it.
Kids can be difficult. That's just a reality. They have temper tantrums about the most random things: they can't pet the fish, the blue crayon is "too blue" (Did you see my Instagram post about this the other day?), the peanut butter was on the wrong side of the peanut butter and jelly sandwich...and then puberty hits and a whole other host of temper tantrums occurs: their BFF has a new BFF, you bought them the wrong color sneakers, you've embarrassed them in front of their friends...again. All of that on top of all the other daily demands and wine quickly becomes a mom's best friend. Yep, you heard me. Diamonds may be a single girl's best friend, but wine (or alcohol in general) is a mom's best friend. Many moms think about that glass (or two) of wine all day long and while we may wait until the kids pass out before pouring it, we fully intend to savor it. It is our breath of fresh air, our moment to unwind. Given that drinking wine seems to be synonymous with motherhood, gifting mom with wine would be a natural choice, especially if it's the gift that keeps on giving like a subscription service. I mean, who wouldn't want to open the door to a wine delivery??
How to make it happen: (1) There are plenty of wine subscriptions out there. The California Wine Club and Wine of the Month Club are my favorites. (2) Load up the car for a trip to the wine store and pick-up her favorite bottle. If you are looking to dress up that bottle a bit, Etsy has a wide selection of wine labels that can be added to give it a funny or meaningful message or you can add a wine glass like this one to round out the gift.
#4 Family Photos That She Is Actually In
Did you know that there are hashtags dedicated to moms actually showing up in photos? Yep. There are hashtags that celebrate the moments where mom is actually in the picture instead of behind the camera. If you look past all the curated and professionally photographed images on those hashtags, you will see a whole lot of moms being....moms. Top knots on their heads, stains on their shirts, yoga pants on despite not having the time to actually go to yoga. Believe me, they are happy to be in the picture for once. They will look past the no-makeup and flabby arms and frame those pictures because pictures of us actually with the kids are so few and far between. But this Mother's Day you can change that. Whether it's gifting her with a professional family photo shoot or just committing yourself to taking a picture of her with the kids on your phone, you can be the one that finally gives her a picture of herself with those children she adores so much. Bonus points if you are able to manage a picture that includes the entire family (that means you!).
How to make it happen: (1) Schedule a family photo session with a professional photographer. Chances are professional family photos are overdue so use Mother's Day as an excuse to finally put that on the calendar. (2) Ask a friend or family member to take a picture of your family. Give Mom a little advanced notice so that she can take a shower, get dressed and take a moment to make herself "feel pretty" then have someone snap a quick pic. (3) Don't have anyone around to take a picture for you? That's what selfies are for. Take a quick selfie or let Mom be the star of the show in a picture with just her and the kids. Goodness knows she has taken plenty of pics of you and the kids. Now it's her turn.
#5 A Day Of Self-Care
I'm not even talking about a day at the spa, although that would be awesome if you are offering. I'm talking about a day to finally get to the dentist or plant those new shrubs. A day to take a nap, read a book. A couple of hours at a hair salon to get rid of those grays that all of you gave us in the first place. Basically just a day to do all the things that have been on the "to-do" list forever and never get checked off because there are always 36,937 other things that need to be done. Moms always put everyone else before themselves, so give them a dedicated day to do whatever it is that they NEED or want to do for themselves.
How to make it happen: (1) Put a day (either Mother's Day or another day of the week) on the calendar and tell her it is her day to do whatever she wants. Let her know that you have the kids and that you will be in charge of dinner and make it so that she has zero responsibilities that day. (2) If she would enjoy a spa day, but that's not in the budget gift her with some pampering items like a face mask, bath bombs, an exfoliating sugar scrub or some new fingernail polish.
If none of these strike your fancy, you can find more ideas on our Mother's Day Gift Ideas Pinterest board here. If you think you know what moms really want but don't see it on the list already, leave us a comment below and impart some of your wisdom on us. We are always looking for more awesome gift ideas.
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